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This post literally made me cry (or at least brought tears to my eyes, yeah I said it). It did so because i immediately pictured myself in these women's shoes. I don't WANT to be "that woman" but things are not looking so great for me now and I'm 25, turning 26 in 2.5 months! It's scary and I hate to say it but is also one of my fears. Chato hit it dead on the spot talking about the "back pocket girl!" I have actually had a guy tell me about having girls "in rotation" for reasons of maybe she's going to college out of state and they just don't want to deal with a long distance relationship at all or something similar. Understandable, but really, if the love is there...why not? And I meet great guys who live out of town but they never seem to be willing to give long distance a try. I'm a GREAT catch, give me a break here! On another note, I totally agree with Nicole, I'm not going to talk to any guy if I'm not attracted to them either!
This is very sad...it's like black women are stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to finding love. We're faced with so many obstacles everyday that the temptation to sacrifice what really want seems more and more like our only solution. I don't know what the answer is but call me optimistic or a romantic or whatever...I do believe if you stay true to yourself, take the time to find out what you really want, stay open to love and without letting it consume you, I beleive you will find happiness. It might not be tomorrow but it will happen. That's why your number one goal should be knowing how to live a happy life with YOU first. Love will come. Be patient...stay strong and positive.
This post literally made me cry (or at least brought tears to my eyes, yeah I said it). It did so because i immediately pictured myself in these women's shoes. I don't WANT to be "that woman" but things are not looking so great for me now and I'm 25, turning 26 in 2.5 months! It's scary and I hate to say it but is also one of my fears.
ReplyDeleteChato hit it dead on the spot talking about the "back pocket girl!" I have actually had a guy tell me about having girls "in rotation" for reasons of maybe she's going to college out of state and they just don't want to deal with a long distance relationship at all or something similar. Understandable, but really, if the love is there...why not? And I meet great guys who live out of town but they never seem to be willing to give long distance a try. I'm a GREAT catch, give me a break here!
On another note, I totally agree with Nicole, I'm not going to talk to any guy if I'm not attracted to them either!
crazy and sad. i don't think the distance matter if you are feeling someone, that's just an excuse to chase tail for real.
ReplyDeleteThis is very sad...it's like black women are stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to finding love. We're faced with so many obstacles everyday that the temptation to sacrifice what really want seems more and more like our only solution. I don't know what the answer is but call me optimistic or a romantic or whatever...I do believe if you stay true to yourself, take the time to find out what you really want, stay open to love and without letting it consume you, I beleive you will find happiness. It might not be tomorrow but it will happen. That's why your number one goal should be knowing how to live a happy life with YOU first. Love will come. Be patient...stay strong and positive.
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